In short Google John Gottman! How many people all around the world that are begging for help to enrich their marriages to thrive or even perhaps save it from what seems like the brink of other miscommunication andhow many people all around the world that are begging for help to enrich their marriages to thrive or even perhaps save it from what seems like the brink of other miscommunication and apparent incompatibility.
This author and his book are out of this world resources that everyone should get of this author and his book are out of this world resources that everyone should get or know of.
According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.
Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)
Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."
Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening. --Erica Jorgensen
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." ---Newsweek
What an incredible event. First off, Iowa, you surprised me, very much! This is one of the two biggest Catholic Conferences I have ever seen, and it had THE BEST line-up of speakers: Cardinal Dolan, Bishop Richard E. Pates Fr. Larry Richards, Angela Perez Baraquio Grey, Mark Hart, Immaculée Ilibagiza, Magnus MacFarlane-Barrow, Tony Meléndez, Tom Peterson, Steve Angrisano, as well as John Leonetti as Emcee.
I had some really wonderful conversations with several attendees, got to take lots of pictures with many of you and was blessed with lots of great feedback. Thank you all.
Keep up the great work. Tell your friends about the next one. Hope to see you there.
Boys are students: Men are teachers
Boys are consumers: Men are producers
Boys play with toys: Men work with tools
Boys break things: Men make things
Boys ask questions: Men give answers
Boys are disruptive: Men bring order
Boys run in gangs: Men organize teams
Boys play house: Men build homes
Boys shack up: Men get married
Boys make babies: Men raise children
Are You Too B-U-S-Y
“Do not leave room for the devil” Ephesians 4:27
Addressing a worldwide convention of demons, satan told them: 'As long as Christians stay close to God we've no power over them, so:
1) Keep them busy with non-essentials.
2) Tempt them to overspend and go into debt.
3) Make them work long hours to maintain empty lifestyles.
4) Discourage them from spending family time, for when homes disintegrate there's no refuge from work.
5) Overstimulate their minds with television and computers so that they can't hear God speaking to them.
6) Fill their coffee tables and nightstands with newspapers and magazines so they've no time for Bible reading.
7) Flood their letter boxes with sweepstakes, promotions and get-rich-quick schemes; keep them chasing material things.
8) Put glamorous models on TV and on magazine covers to keep them focused on outward appearances; that way they'll be dissatisfied with themselves and their mates.
9) Make sure couples are too exhausted for physical intimacy; that way they'll be tempted to look elsewhere.
10) Emphasize Santa and the Easter Bunny; that way you'll divert them from the real meaning of Christmas and Easter.
11) Involve them in 'earthly' causes so they won't have any time for 'heavenly' ones.
12) Make them self-sufficient. Keep them so busy working in their own strength that they'll never know the joy of God's power working through them.
Do these twelve things faithfully. I promise-it'll work!' Have you figured out the difference between being busy and being successful in what God's called you to do?
Sometimes being B-U-S-Y just means Being Under Satan's Yoke!
I am sharing the last part of an article which I believe goes right to the heart of the matter. It's a great reminder. At the end you can find the link to the full article.
Every Man’s Call to Defiant Gratefulness by MARCUS BROTHERTON on APRIL 8, 2013 (seen on http://www.artofmanliness.com)
That’s the challenge for all men. Most of us will not encounter life and death situations, but we will all encounter serious adversity. The interplay with adversity is human and universal.
How will adversity sit with us? Will we work through it, acknowledging that the trouble was genuine trouble and yet knowing that it strangely helped form us into who we are today? Or will we become victims of adversity, forever dismayed by it, perpetually sorrowing at our losses, continually hurt by our disappointments?
In simplest terms: Will that hardship make or break us?
My term for Burgin’s attitude today is “defiant gratefulness.” It’s what I have a bit of already in my own life, and what I want far more of.
The “defiance” doesn’t mean rebellion. Rather, it’s a determined sort of gratitude. It’s an attitude of resolve. Defiant gratefulness is when a man says, Screw it, I won’t be destroyed by hardship. In fact, I choose to see adversity as something that makes me stronger.
Imagine the opposite: what would your life be like if you never encountered any sort of a challenge?
A man who lives in a completely problem-free world—where he never needs to summon courage, or show backbone, or get along with someone who doesn’t agree with him, or have the fortitude to work out a problem without taking a hike—is a man untested. He’s a child.
Because of hardship, we see that we can be brave.
Because of hardship, we learn to have backbones.
Because of hardship, we are able to work amicably with people we don’t agree with, or we can shake hands in disagreement and walk away.
Because of hardship—and our ability to navigate through it—we become men.
Pulitzer-prize winning novelist William Faulkner (1897-1962) likened gratitude to electricity. “It must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all,” he wrote.
In ancient history, St. Paul of Tarsus issued an extreme call. He was an older man by the time he wrote about the problems he had endured. Five times he was publicly whipped. Three times he was beaten with rods. Once an angry mob pelted him with stones. Three times he was shipwrecked and once spent a day and night alone on the open sea. Yet he extended this blanket call to defiant gratefulness: “Give thanks in all circumstances.”
The “all” is a tricky word to navigate. No, we are not called to be thankful for the hardship itself. Nick the waiter isn’t asked to be thankful that his girlfriend cheated on him, much the same way R.V. Burgin isn’t grateful for an enemy soldier trying to stick him with a bayonet.
Rather, we are called to be thankful through hardship. Or in spite of hardship. Or, thankful for what the hardship produces when we see beneficial change in our character.
Can you echo the words of R.V. Burgin—Quite frankly, I’m glad I got to fight in the Pacific—whatever the specific adversity was that you went through?
Are you defiantly thankful?
That’s the invitation offered to every man today.
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Shalom Tidings magazine has just launched their first issue and has featured an article that is worth a read. It is very well written and their staff write Mary Job did a great job of communicating my story and at the same time she weaved in important points that easily get lost.
This article highlights the effects of the media on our youth as well as laying out the different God-incidences that occurred in my life bringing me to where I am now.
A CATHOLIC MODEL by Mary Job
MARIO FOUND HIMSELF RUBBING SHOULDERS WITH THE RICH AND FAMOUS. HE WAS OFFERED THE OPPORTUNITY TO BECOME A FASHION MODEL.
FAITHLESS IDOLS - A few years ago, research in the United States on television viewing found that two to five-year olds watch an average of thirty-two hours of television a week. Six to eleven-year olds watch twenty-eight hours per week. At younger ages, pre-school age
It is not the critic who counts;
not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds
could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but
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